Considering surrogacy?

You don’t have to figure it all out alone. The process of becoming a parent through surrogacy is both exciting and overwhelming. It involves navigating clinics, agencies, lawyers, egg donors, surrogates, and finances, all while preparing for fatherhood. It’s hard to know where to begin, what questions to ask, or who to trust.

As a married gay dad who built my family through international surrogacy, I help intended parents gain clarity, confidence, and calm through every step of the journey. I will be a sounding board, mentor, and planner through your surrogacy journey.

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Meet Jeremy

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I’m Jeremy, a dedicated surrogacy mentor and coach who experienced the exciting journey of family-building through surrogacy as a married gay dad.

My husband and I had been together for over a decade when we decided to build our family. The surrogacy process was new to us, and we had to navigate it ourselves. Groups like Men Having Babies helped us find an agency and a supportive network, but the process was still complicated. Five years, two donors, and three surrogates later, we welcomed the birth of our daughter to a wonderful surrogate in Canada, and our son two years after that. We had many challenges and setbacks along the way, but our children made the journey more than worth it. My goal as a mentor and coach is to help other aspiring parents build their families.

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How I Can Help

I provide personalized coaching to help you:

  • Determine if surrogacy is the right path for you
  • Understand the surrogacy process (domestic or international)
  • Ask the right questions at each step
  • Compare clinics, agencies, and pathways
  • Prepare for conversations with potential surrogates
  • Talk to your family and friends about your plans
  • Find a support network of families like yours (surrogacy, LGTBQ)
  • Navigating your ongoing relationship with your surrogate and her family
  • Prepare for future conversations with your kids on their surrogacy story
  • Help you prepare for life as a new parent

I do not provide medical or legal advice, therapy, or surrogacy matching. Rather, I’ll be your guide, sounding board, and ally throughout the journey.

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Disclaimer:
The services I provided are for informational and coaching purposes only. I am not a licensed medical professional, mental health provider, or attorney, and I do not provide medical, psychological, or legal advice. Any information shared during coaching sessions, consultations, or materials is intended to help clients make more informed personal decisions during their family-building journey. You should always consult appropriate professionals for legal, financial, medical, or psychological matters related to surrogacy, fertility, or parenthood. Participation in coaching sessions does not create a client relationship with any medical, legal, or mental health professional. My company (ProclAmes LLC) and I are not responsible for actions taken based on this information.

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